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]]> By: Cindy http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2813 Cindy Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:32:55 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2813 I don't think I've ever read in print the feelings I have toward my own daughter & mother. On some level you & I have the same mother & upbringing, & have the same thoughts of our relationships. To see how beautifully you can put this into words make me want to cry. I always wonder that if my son had been born first, maybe I would have been a better mother to my daughter who only brought about so much more anxiety, confusion, hurt & regret than I ever thought imaginable. I'm in no way the mother I had, a dismissive, unloving, absent, indifferent alcoholic, but if you ask my daughter, the faults I have and just as many but with different adjectives. I wish you the best of luck, Teresa, the memories of your childhood will never go away but one day you will look at your child(ren) and know you did a much better job than your mother did. The mere fact that it bothers you so much is proof of that, I know for a fact my mother never once asked herself if she was doing a good job. I don’t think I’ve ever read in print the feelings I have toward my own daughter & mother. On some level you & I have the same mother & upbringing, & have the same thoughts of our relationships. To see how beautifully you can put this into words make me want to cry. I always wonder that if my son had been born first, maybe I would have been a better mother to my daughter who only brought about so much more anxiety, confusion, hurt & regret than I ever thought imaginable. I’m in no way the mother I had, a dismissive, unloving, absent, indifferent alcoholic, but if you ask my daughter, the faults I have and just as many but with different adjectives. I wish you the best of luck, Teresa, the memories of your childhood will never go away but one day you will look at your child(ren) and know you did a much better job than your mother did. The mere fact that it bothers you so much is proof of that, I know for a fact my mother never once asked herself if she was doing a good job.

]]> By: SLD http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2639 SLD Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:05:48 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2639 Hi Teresa, I'm glad to read you've accepted the boy. I have a 2 yr old boy and he is the most awesome thing ever. He is so much more affectionate than my 4yr old girl. He is also more brave, daring, and smarter. I love my daughter dearly, but I can't stand her. My daughter is winey, emotional, pickey, and defiant. I stay home with them full time, so they get lots of attention. I don't know if it's her or me. When I have my son alone, it is a pleasure being a mom. He makes it so much more rewarding. I really with I would have had him first, then I would have not had anymore. Oh, I didn't even get to the difficulty getting her dressed everyday. She has to match everything, and has recently had an advertion to pants and shorts, only dresses and skirts. I can put anything on my boy and her never complains. I too had difficulty buying him clothes and decorating his nursery at first. Fortunatly a lot of stores have surfer/skater clothes for little guys now. I did his room all surfer dude and it was very cute. I did not like the teddy bear and sport themed appearal and decorations. Please excuse my grammer and spelling as I have had a terrible morning with my daughter and have resorted to bong hits in the garage, drinking makes my too sleepy. ; ) Hi Teresa, I’m glad to read you’ve accepted the boy. I have a 2 yr old boy and he is the most awesome thing ever. He is so much more affectionate than my 4yr old girl. He is also more brave, daring, and smarter. I love my daughter dearly, but I can’t stand her. My daughter is winey, emotional, pickey, and defiant. I stay home with them full time, so they get lots of attention. I don’t know if it’s her or me. When I have my son alone, it is a pleasure being a mom. He makes it so much more rewarding. I really with I would have had him first, then I would have not had anymore. Oh, I didn’t even get to the difficulty getting her dressed everyday. She has to match everything, and has recently had an advertion to pants and shorts, only dresses and skirts. I can put anything on my boy and her never complains.
I too had difficulty buying him clothes and decorating his nursery at first. Fortunatly a lot of stores have surfer/skater clothes for little guys now. I did his room all surfer dude and it was very cute. I did not like the teddy bear and sport themed appearal and decorations. Please excuse my grammer and spelling as I have had a terrible morning with my daughter and have resorted to bong hits in the garage, drinking makes my too sleepy. ; )

]]> By: Susan In L.A. http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2638 Susan In L.A. Wed, 01 Jul 2009 16:10:31 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2638 T, I'm so glad you came to this realization on your own. I think Natalia Carolla made you see the light, although I tend to believe that Olga's Latina influence may be making her even more girly in a negative telenovela stereotype way. I find the marketing to young girls to be offesnive, and I think you do, too. My brother has three boys who are devoted to their mother in a non-creepy way. Susan P.S. Keith, Marty (Martin), Steven, John, all solid, currently underused boy names. T, I’m so glad you came to this realization on your own. I think Natalia Carolla made you see the light, although I tend to believe that Olga’s Latina influence may be making her even more girly in a negative telenovela stereotype way. I find the marketing to young girls to be offesnive, and I think you do, too. My brother has three boys who are devoted to their mother in a non-creepy way.
Susan
P.S. Keith, Marty (Martin), Steven, John, all solid, currently underused boy names.

]]> By: Brandie http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2631 Brandie Tue, 30 Jun 2009 17:17:19 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2631 T- I have boy/girl twins that just turned four. While I have the best of both worlds, I can speak from experience: you will have a "mamma's boy". My son cries in the morning if I don't wake him up to say goodbye before I leave for work. For the first part of this third year, he would say, "Vince is mom's boy!" He wants hugs and kisses more than my girl (she is just starting to come around) and he LOVES pink! You will be a great mom. I can't wait to see pictures, and read the "mom blog". Oh...I almost forgot; I had the twins at 29 weeks, and other than being a little small for their age, they are perfect. So don't worry too much about what can happen with the delivery/timing/birth, etc; you will have a perfect baby boy. As far as your original concerns about being able to love, I would bet money that the moment you see him/hold him, you will cry. It was like a switch had been turned on for me, and I loved my children immediately; so much, I thought my heart might burst. Congratulations! Enjoy your boy! Brandie T-

I have boy/girl twins that just turned four. While I have the best of both worlds, I can speak from experience: you will have a “mamma’s boy”. My son cries in the morning if I don’t wake him up to say goodbye before I leave for work. For the first part of this third year, he would say, “Vince is mom’s boy!” He wants hugs and kisses more than my girl (she is just starting to come around) and he LOVES pink!

You will be a great mom. I can’t wait to see pictures, and read the “mom blog”.

Oh…I almost forgot; I had the twins at 29 weeks, and other than being a little small for their age, they are perfect. So don’t worry too much about what can happen with the delivery/timing/birth, etc; you will have a perfect baby boy. As far as your original concerns about being able to love, I would bet money that the moment you see him/hold him, you will cry. It was like a switch had been turned on for me, and I loved my children immediately; so much, I thought my heart might burst.

Congratulations! Enjoy your boy!
Brandie

]]> By: Stephanie http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2605 Stephanie Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:36:59 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2605 Great post. I didn't know you weren't speaking to your Mom. What happened? Great post. I didn’t know you weren’t speaking to your Mom. What happened?

]]> By: Kathleen http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2590 Kathleen Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:46:01 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2590 I went through the same grief after my OB announced "I see a scrotum!" when I gave birth. I looked around the room of new mothers being coached in the art of breast feeding and was jealous that half of them had girls and I would be a much better mother to one of their girls than they were. I now spend time playing trains with my two year old and watch him as his eyes grow big at the site of wheel loaders, cattipillar wheels, and construction workers. He thinks dolls are for wrestling and lives for riding the miniature railroad (remember Tilden Park in the East Bay?). Now I couldn't be happier that he will never be a 15 year old girl. Maybe your little boy will be gay, in which case, you could have the best of both worlds! He'll always love his mom. I went through the same grief after my OB announced “I see a scrotum!” when I gave birth. I looked around the room of new mothers being coached in the art of breast feeding and was jealous that half of them had girls and I would be a much better mother to one of their girls than they were. I now spend time playing trains with my two year old and watch him as his eyes grow big at the site of wheel loaders, cattipillar wheels, and construction workers. He thinks dolls are for wrestling and lives for riding the miniature railroad (remember Tilden Park in the East Bay?). Now I couldn’t be happier that he will never be a 15 year old girl.
Maybe your little boy will be gay, in which case, you could have the best of both worlds!
He’ll always love his mom.

]]> By: Seattle Kevinq http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2579 Seattle Kevinq Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:54:53 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2579 Funny how this post came a few days after you visted "bossy" Natalia at Adam's house! Funny how this post came a few days after you visted “bossy” Natalia at Adam’s house!

]]> By: Eric in Chicago http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2576 Eric in Chicago Tue, 23 Jun 2009 15:10:06 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2576 Hi Teresa! I'm embarrassed to say this is the first time I've visited your blog. I've been listening to your old radio show for 2 years via the net and podcasting. I've always liked your banter with Adam and Bryan. Now I see how funny you are on your own. Best wishes to you and your family. You are going to be a great mom! Best, Eric Hi Teresa!
I’m embarrassed to say this is the first time I’ve visited your blog.
I’ve been listening to your old radio show for 2 years via the net and podcasting.
I’ve always liked your banter with Adam and Bryan.
Now I see how funny you are on your own.
Best wishes to you and your family.
You are going to be a great mom!
Best,
Eric

]]> By: amanda http://teresastrasser.com/blog/2009/06/why-i%e2%80%99m-finally-psyched-to-be-having-a-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-2571 amanda Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:02:24 +0000 http://teresastrasser.com/blog/?p=508#comment-2571 AGREED! AGREED!

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